Although it is quite complicated and you may not agree with me.
The first simple rule for judging a person is to make him speak but not react.
I have seen people speaking something and thinking something else. This usually makes them talk too much than required. This can be easily noticed with girls normally and even with boys too. You can easily find contradictions in their statements and if you find it then, it is better you leave the conversation as soon as possible. This means he/she is confused or trying to make you confused. This leads to lots of confusions. DO NOT TALK or TALK RUBBISH.
The second rule according to me is pictures. A person who like too much of his photographs is a show piece.The reason why I made this statement is that if their is a show, we should enjoy it but if its a piece of show it would surprise you every time. APPRECIATE THE PICTURE, NOT THE FRAME AND GET A CAMERA EYE
Third rule is ambitions. An ambitious person sees only one thing - The HILL TOP. He will do all sacrifice to achieve it. Such persons will neglect most of the surroundings and questions; but they will try to get most of the attention. LEAVE THEM ALONE OR KEEP SUITABLE DISTANCE
Eyes vs Smile. The movement of eyes speaks a lot about personality. Beautiful eyes are rare and the same applies for the smiles. The man who smiles too much can be a joker. But a girl who smiles too much can be very intelligent. Too much of eye movement and smiles are things to be avoided in a conversation. If you do not notice it, that's fine but if do notice it, that means someone is getting bankrupt of thoughts and is going be in trouble. It is always better to avoid such creatures who are fast and smiling guns. BE SERIOUS otherwise LAUGH LOUDER in front of them.
Last but not least; the respect factor. If a person respects you, that's because he wants it back in return. Never neglect such sensitive persons because the time a respect become drama, it leads to a misunderstanding at the spot. The character of a person can be easily found with this trait of him. the moment you disrespect a person then the next moment be ready to get it in return. RESPECT EVERYONE
To summarize in few words Character = SPEAKING LEVEL + APPEARANCE MAGNITUDE + AMBITIONS HEIGHT + EYES MOVEMENT + SMILE VOLTAGE + RESPECT FACTOR
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Monday, January 11, 2010
Ek ajeeb soch jo baar baar yaad aati hai
Kuch dino pahle mai Washington mai National museum dekhne gaya tha. Wahan maine aise bahut sare chizein dekhin jo ek normal ensaan humesha yaad rakhega. Wahan mai durlabh diamonds, ajib adbudh pathar dekhein par ye sab kuch mujhe yaad nahi aatein. Ek drisya jo baar deemag mai aa jata hai..woh hai ek budhe aadmi ka chehra jo wahan museum mai meri tarah sab kuch dekh raha tha par uske dekhne aur mere dekhne mai bahut farq tha.
Farq ye tha ki uski aakhon mai maine unn sabhi chizon ke liye lagao dekha...manno woh dil se dekh raha ho aur taarif kar raha ho....saayad woh iss soch ke sath dekh raha tha jaise woh fir dunia mai in sabhi chizon ko dekhne ke liye jinda nahi rahega..Usee dekh kar hin mujhe laga ki uska jeevan ab khatam hone wala hai. Uski woh nazrein aur uska yun har ek drishya ko niharna iss soch ke sath ki woh ab marne wala hai mere hosh ura gaya.Woh wheel chair pe tha. Uski biwi paas kahri thi aur sayd beti wheel chair ko push kar rahi thi. Uski aadmi ka khasne mai itna dard tha ki laga woh ab jayada din jinda nahi rahega. Woh ek ajib hasrat bhari nazron se sab kuch dekh raha tha.....glass pe uska haath baar baar phirana aur mann hin mann dubara dekhne ki tamanna mai saaf dekh sakta tha. Woh drisya mujhe baar baar yaad aata hai.Bhagwan usee himmat de apni bimari se larne ke liye.
Farq ye tha ki uski aakhon mai maine unn sabhi chizon ke liye lagao dekha...manno woh dil se dekh raha ho aur taarif kar raha ho....saayad woh iss soch ke sath dekh raha tha jaise woh fir dunia mai in sabhi chizon ko dekhne ke liye jinda nahi rahega..Usee dekh kar hin mujhe laga ki uska jeevan ab khatam hone wala hai. Uski woh nazrein aur uska yun har ek drishya ko niharna iss soch ke sath ki woh ab marne wala hai mere hosh ura gaya.Woh wheel chair pe tha. Uski biwi paas kahri thi aur sayd beti wheel chair ko push kar rahi thi. Uski aadmi ka khasne mai itna dard tha ki laga woh ab jayada din jinda nahi rahega. Woh ek ajib hasrat bhari nazron se sab kuch dekh raha tha.....glass pe uska haath baar baar phirana aur mann hin mann dubara dekhne ki tamanna mai saaf dekh sakta tha. Woh drisya mujhe baar baar yaad aata hai.Bhagwan usee himmat de apni bimari se larne ke liye.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Pride and Prejudice : by Vinay Pandey
This is just a copy paste from the timesofindia site. I liked this article as a Bihari but I am an Indian first.
The recent growth of Bihar which is in par with Gujrat makes every citizen of Bihar and thus India feel proud and I hope all Indians want to see development in Bihar and therefore, all of us should appreciate the Bihar Government for its three years of magnificent work.
Now since Bihar is rising, we as an Indian should appreciate this and provide all necessary resources and efforts so that this part of India can get its lost glory back.
Here is the article written by Vinay Pandey. I sincerely thank him for writing such a wonderful article.
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Author: Vinay Pandey, TNN, 10 January 2010, 12:15am IST
Who carries you on a rickshaw or an autorickshaw in Delhi? Biharis. Who drives the cars of Delhiites? Biharis. Who built the Delhi Metro?
Biharis. (You may not agree with the last one.)
Who is building the new houses and the expanding suburbs of Delhi? Biharis. Who made Punjab the most prosperous state in the country? The answer again is Biharis. (Here too you may not agree.)
The credit for building the Delhi Metro or making Punjab prosperous will never go to Biharis. Does anyone ever say that blacks built America?
In colonial days, Bihar supplied the "girmitiya", or indentured, labour force that built countries like Mauritius, Suriname and Fiji. A bulk of the labour employed in the Raj capital of Calcutta came from Bihar. After Independence, as opportunities grew, Bihari workers flocked to places like Delhi, Punjab and Mumbai.
At the same time, Biharis excelled in other fields. Many of them became great political leaders, ICS and IAS
officers, scientists, doctors, engineers, writers and artists. Delhi and other Indian cities attracted huge white-collar Bihari populations and Biharis formed a large part of the Indian diaspora of professionals.
But in the eyes of the rest of India, "Bihari" had come to mean a labourer, a person doing menial jobs. It had become a term of scorn and contempt. In their anglicized lingo, places like Delhi University turned the word into "Harry", but the pejorative tone remained unmistakable.
Heaping scorn on the working classes is a universal phenomenon. That is how words like Negro, Paki (used for Pakistanis and Indians in Britain) and some of the words denoting dalit castes in India earned contemptuous connotations.
In fact, while Biharis were getting their hands dirty on Punjab's farms, Punjabis were migrating in hordes to the US, Canada, the UK and Australia. Never mind that they would take up blue-collar jobs as taxi drivers, petrol pump attendants and waiters in those faraway lands.
As the years passed, many of the Biharis who had come to Punjab or Mumbai as manual labourers started moving up the economic ladder as did the blue-collar Indian emigrants abroad. A usually unnoticed aspect of the so-called racial attacks against Indians abroad is the threat the rise of working classes poses to the entrenched social order. This accentuates the contempt they face. Viewed thus, the attacks on Biharis in Punjab, and Mumbai, and the attacks on Indians abroad are manifestations of the same phenomenon.
What stopped Biharis from bringing about a green revolution or building a Metro in Bihar? The answer is geography and history. Geography, because ravaged by floods, the land of Bihar was unable to feed its growing population. And history, because what was the centre of the biggest Indian empire in ancient times was reduced to an obscure provincial existence. The skewed landownership system introduced by the British rulers worsened the situation.
It is a story of a couple of hundred years. Things could have improved after Independence had the political leadership of Bihar been able to exert influence on the rulers in New Delhi to get enough funds for development projects and set off a process of industrialization in the state.
On the contrary, Bihar continued to live the same, conveniently ignored, provincial existence. A system built on casteism, nepotism, corruption and crime came to dominate the state. It spawned a neo-rich class of netas, babus, contractors and government engineers who would build palatial houses for themselves with the money meant for dams, power projects, ration for the poor or even fodder for cattle.
The money meant for roads, other infrastructure and public amenities would go into their bank accounts. No wonder, the roads - supposed to be built with public money - in front of those houses would be full of ditches and become the playground of pigs every monsoon.
With limited options of higher education and hardly any employment opportunities in the state, the youth of Bihar started looking out. They flooded places like Delhi University and Jawaharlal Nehru University. They started dominating the country's toughest competitive tests like the IIT Joint Entrance Examination and the UPSC's civil services examination. With this success, Biharis started believing that they were the brainiest. As for others, they at least began to acknowledge that Biharis were inferior to none when it came to brainpower.
The academic success, however, did not do much to rid the word "Bihari" of the scorn it had gathered. People in Delhi continued to laugh at those who spoke with a Bihari accent. Those who spoke without an accent would get this compliment: "Oh, you are from Bihar? But you don't sound like a Bihari."
Biharis, meanwhile, were retreating into a shell, with little but the glory of ancient and medieval heroes like Buddha, Mahavira, Chandragupta, Chanakya, Ashoka, Aryabhatta, Guru Gobind Singh and Sher Shah to bask in. Now comes 11% growth. The state can recover from the damage it has suffered over hundreds of years only if such a high rate of growth can be sustained for many, many years. Then Biharis would not have to till others' land or build cities and countries elsewhere.
The writer is proud to be a Bihari.
The recent growth of Bihar which is in par with Gujrat makes every citizen of Bihar and thus India feel proud and I hope all Indians want to see development in Bihar and therefore, all of us should appreciate the Bihar Government for its three years of magnificent work.
Now since Bihar is rising, we as an Indian should appreciate this and provide all necessary resources and efforts so that this part of India can get its lost glory back.
Here is the article written by Vinay Pandey. I sincerely thank him for writing such a wonderful article.
*********************************************
Author: Vinay Pandey, TNN, 10 January 2010, 12:15am IST
Who carries you on a rickshaw or an autorickshaw in Delhi? Biharis. Who drives the cars of Delhiites? Biharis. Who built the Delhi Metro?
Biharis. (You may not agree with the last one.)
Who is building the new houses and the expanding suburbs of Delhi? Biharis. Who made Punjab the most prosperous state in the country? The answer again is Biharis. (Here too you may not agree.)
The credit for building the Delhi Metro or making Punjab prosperous will never go to Biharis. Does anyone ever say that blacks built America?
In colonial days, Bihar supplied the "girmitiya", or indentured, labour force that built countries like Mauritius, Suriname and Fiji. A bulk of the labour employed in the Raj capital of Calcutta came from Bihar. After Independence, as opportunities grew, Bihari workers flocked to places like Delhi, Punjab and Mumbai.
At the same time, Biharis excelled in other fields. Many of them became great political leaders, ICS and IAS
officers, scientists, doctors, engineers, writers and artists. Delhi and other Indian cities attracted huge white-collar Bihari populations and Biharis formed a large part of the Indian diaspora of professionals.
But in the eyes of the rest of India, "Bihari" had come to mean a labourer, a person doing menial jobs. It had become a term of scorn and contempt. In their anglicized lingo, places like Delhi University turned the word into "Harry", but the pejorative tone remained unmistakable.
Heaping scorn on the working classes is a universal phenomenon. That is how words like Negro, Paki (used for Pakistanis and Indians in Britain) and some of the words denoting dalit castes in India earned contemptuous connotations.
In fact, while Biharis were getting their hands dirty on Punjab's farms, Punjabis were migrating in hordes to the US, Canada, the UK and Australia. Never mind that they would take up blue-collar jobs as taxi drivers, petrol pump attendants and waiters in those faraway lands.
As the years passed, many of the Biharis who had come to Punjab or Mumbai as manual labourers started moving up the economic ladder as did the blue-collar Indian emigrants abroad. A usually unnoticed aspect of the so-called racial attacks against Indians abroad is the threat the rise of working classes poses to the entrenched social order. This accentuates the contempt they face. Viewed thus, the attacks on Biharis in Punjab, and Mumbai, and the attacks on Indians abroad are manifestations of the same phenomenon.
What stopped Biharis from bringing about a green revolution or building a Metro in Bihar? The answer is geography and history. Geography, because ravaged by floods, the land of Bihar was unable to feed its growing population. And history, because what was the centre of the biggest Indian empire in ancient times was reduced to an obscure provincial existence. The skewed landownership system introduced by the British rulers worsened the situation.
It is a story of a couple of hundred years. Things could have improved after Independence had the political leadership of Bihar been able to exert influence on the rulers in New Delhi to get enough funds for development projects and set off a process of industrialization in the state.
On the contrary, Bihar continued to live the same, conveniently ignored, provincial existence. A system built on casteism, nepotism, corruption and crime came to dominate the state. It spawned a neo-rich class of netas, babus, contractors and government engineers who would build palatial houses for themselves with the money meant for dams, power projects, ration for the poor or even fodder for cattle.
The money meant for roads, other infrastructure and public amenities would go into their bank accounts. No wonder, the roads - supposed to be built with public money - in front of those houses would be full of ditches and become the playground of pigs every monsoon.
With limited options of higher education and hardly any employment opportunities in the state, the youth of Bihar started looking out. They flooded places like Delhi University and Jawaharlal Nehru University. They started dominating the country's toughest competitive tests like the IIT Joint Entrance Examination and the UPSC's civil services examination. With this success, Biharis started believing that they were the brainiest. As for others, they at least began to acknowledge that Biharis were inferior to none when it came to brainpower.
The academic success, however, did not do much to rid the word "Bihari" of the scorn it had gathered. People in Delhi continued to laugh at those who spoke with a Bihari accent. Those who spoke without an accent would get this compliment: "Oh, you are from Bihar? But you don't sound like a Bihari."
Biharis, meanwhile, were retreating into a shell, with little but the glory of ancient and medieval heroes like Buddha, Mahavira, Chandragupta, Chanakya, Ashoka, Aryabhatta, Guru Gobind Singh and Sher Shah to bask in. Now comes 11% growth. The state can recover from the damage it has suffered over hundreds of years only if such a high rate of growth can be sustained for many, many years. Then Biharis would not have to till others' land or build cities and countries elsewhere.
The writer is proud to be a Bihari.
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